I hope you all had a wonderful weekend. We had a nice, relaxing one around here with lots of rest and family time. I now feel better and ready to start a new week. Aiden and I will be spending the week with grandma in Nebraska! We’re excited, but we’ll miss daddy.
I know so many people who have had babies recently, so I thought I’d touch on some ways to help a new mom. Most people say they would love to help but don’t know what to do or don’t want to be in the way. Here are 8 ways that people helped me that I loved.
1. Bring a meal. Meals are like the hardest thing to get accomplished for me. I had to go to think about what to make, go to the store to buy ingredients and then actually find the time to prepare it. I know there are lots of supermoms out there that didn’t have this problem, but a nice meal brought over was always greatly appreciated!
2. Remind mama that she’s doing great and perfection doesn’t exist. There were lots of times in the first weeks after Aiden was born that I felt like I wasn’t doing a very good job keeping up with everything. You see some moms that are able to get out of the house right away, exercise, have an immaculate house and look put together. Trust me, this isn’t every mom. I felt so lucky when I didn’t have to leave the house for something in the first few weeks and got to stay in my pajamas. I was an emotional basket case and sometimes I just needed to hear “you’re doing it!”
3. Come over and hold the baby while mama takes a nice hot shower and maybe even takes a nap. If you’re close enough to mama, offer to do this for her. Chances are, she’s lost in the shuffle of trying to take care of everyone and everything else besides herself. A calm hot shower never felt so good.
4. Ask mama if she needs any errands run or anything from the store. Sometimes its difficult to get the baby ready and out the door just to run into the store for milk or bread. It would be much nice to have someone just bring it over! Even if mama says no, keep asking.
5. Visit mama after all the big rush is over. Everyone wants to see the baby right after he/she is born. Mama is still running on adrenaline too, so she’s probably okay now. It’s the 3rd and 4th week that are difficult and help is often readily appreciated.
6. Toss in a load of laundry or fold some clothes. Mama will never ask for anyone to do this, so just do it! No one likes doing laundry especially right after a baby is born.
7. Offer to go for a walk or coffee with her. Sometimes it’s nice to get out of the house and sometimes mama just needs a push to do so. It’s easy to get caught up with staying at home (especially in the winter), but it does wonders to actually get dressed and see something different. Newborns are easy to take out of the house!
8. Only stay for the allotted 30 minutes. This all depends on your relationship with mama and the mama herself. Some moms like the company especially after dad has gone back to work and there are no older kids around, but sometimes guests are in the way. Think about the time of day you come and how long you should stay and stick with that.
There are lots of other ways to help new families, but these are the most valuable to me!
What was the best thing someone did for you when you had a baby?
What’s your favorite way to help a new mom?